03-03-2009 Entry

Today I begin the multi-part series known as my Philosophy of Life, where I digest several aspects of human life, and implement my opinion into them by either reinforcing them or condemning them. Today is Part One where I analyze Human Interactions at a One on One level.

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Having spent a majority of my time in society alone, I have had a lot of time to observe and analyze peoples interactions with each other. In a broad sense of things, I can label this phenomenon with one word: disappointing.

Many people with approach their conversations with other people trying to keep things light and positive. Here people have the right idea, but they are lacking one key aspect of it. They lack sincerity. While engaged in the conversation, they will nod and smile as if they actually feel this way, but inside they either disagree, or, unfortunately, don't care. I am not saying every conversation is this way, but many are. When the conversation, the state of caring ends, and the state of badmouthing begins.

Badmouthing especially happens when one person is with a group of their friends, and the person this person runs into and converses with is not well liked my these friends. They will act all sweet and caring at first making the person feel welcome and warm. When that person leaves the conversation, badmouthing commences. They will retract many statements they made, and move on to stating all things that are wrong with the person which make them such a terrible person, all to keep their own reputations higher. This is an extreme case of things, but a little bit of this happens in most conversations.

Another negative aspect of one on one interactions is lying. It is sad to see how many people engage in this activity. For example if one friend calls another friend on the phone, but the invited person does not really want to take up the friend's offer. Instead of blatantly stating that they don't want or feel like taking up the offer, they lie by coming up with excuses, such as illness, or work. If I were inviting a person to do something, and they did not want to do so, I would much rather want to hear the truth instead of a lie. Granted that I would try to persuade them otherwise, but I would accept it in the end. My feelings toward that person would not change, and I would not think any less of the person. Lying is a terrible action, especially in relationships between a man and woman (or man and man, or woman and woman if they feel that way). When one lie occurs, this will only lead to another lie to keep from exposing the other lie and so on. I never understood what was so hard about telling the truth and tell their significant other the truth. If they truly loved each other, such little things as going out or not should not affect anything. They should be understanding, and just make plans for the future. It happens. We all don't feel like doing such things all the time, and may just need some "me" time. Telling the truth from the beginning will lead to an easier relationship because they will not always be trying to cover their previous lies with new lies. The web gets messy, so why not keep the web non-existent? They only lies that I feel are "appropriate" are ones involving gifts or surprise parties and the such, when the person being lied to won't really be hurt in anyway, and the lies won't have to be continuously be covered up once the gift or party is revealed.

This is not a complete documentation of my observations, but it is a start. I'll just save it for later. Peace be with you all, and keep a positive view towards life. :)

-F.B.